The Heart of Sexual Abuse Recovery

September 11, 2012 — 5 Comments

One of the most hurtful comments you can make to a sexual abuse survivor is “It happened a long time ago–Get over it!” Most survivors would love to be free of the deep emotional pain of sexual abuse, but they simply don’t how to get there.

The Heart of Sexual Abuse Recovery

Some survivors describe their abuse as ‘soul murder.’ They describe feeling like something precious was lost from deep inside of them. They report that their bodies were not affected as deeply as their souls.

Long-Term Effects of Child Sexual Abuse

The long-term effects of child sexual abuse often include:

  • numerous long-term health issues
  • low self-esteem and self worth
  • depression or anxiety
  • flash-backs of the abuse
  • addiction to drugs or alcohol
  • anorexia, bulimia or weight issues
  • difficulty with relationships
  • marriage or parenting problems
  • hating sex or promiscuity
  • career challenges
  • prostitution
  • suicide or suicidal thoughts, feelings and attempts

These and many other issues can torment a sexual abuse survivor for a lifetime when they are not dealt with and released.

Sexual Abuse Recovery

If you are a survivor of child sexual abuse, recovering from that abuse is a challenging, yet very freeing experience. It can feel scary momentarily, because it requires trusting someone enough to support you while you face the ugly memories of abuse. The good news is that by facing the truth, you can also free yourself of the long-term effects the abuse has had on your life.

Through Emotional Healing, you can allow yourself to feel the feelings you have denied and express what you were not able to express when it happened. You can be as angry or as sad as you need to be. With Emotional Healing, you just keep expressing your honest feelings until they naturally release and you come back to a feeling of inner peace and light-heartedness.

Expressing the feelings of sexual abuse is not a one-time experience. You’ll have to express them again and again, until eventually they just don’t come up anymore. Along with the actual memories of the abuse, there are also other feelings you’ll need to release about how the abuse has affected your life.

It feels wonderful to finally get it at a gut level that the abuse was not your fault! Perpetrators prey on children who need love and attention, and children are too small and inexperienced to protect themselves. Eventually you will realize that you were just an innocent child who was manipulated and abused.

Happiness and Inner Peace are Possible!

Although it takes time and effort to resolve sexual abuse issues, the freedom to be your self is well worth any amount of time you spend getting there. When you finally feel like a normal, healthy human being, you’ll be so very grateful that you took the time to work through your sexual abuse issues!

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5 responses to The Heart of Sexual Abuse Recovery

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  3. Source: United Advocacy Group, Inc.

    When Clergy Are Asked To Leave Quietly, There Is No Justice

    (CHICAGO) – Br. John Woulfe, an ex-Marianist brother, has been accused by numerous ex-students at Chaminade College Preparatory School in St. Louis, MO of sexually molesting them. Of course, he wasn’t the only member of this religious community accused of such acts. There were many more. Many, many more.
    In 2002, Michael Powel filed a lawsuit against Chaminade College Preparatory School for a lifetime of suffering and damages (2002. Powel v Chaminade College Preparatory, Inc, Marianist Province of the United States, Archbishop Justin Rigali, William Christensen [aka Fr. William Christensen, S.M.] and John Woulfe [aka Br. John Woulfe, S.M.]). Powel would ultimately win the lawsuit for millions of dollars several years later.
    Br. John Woulfe, after being accused of inappropriate sexual behavior with students in the 1970s left the Society of Mary (aka “Marianists”). Instead of notifying the local police department for prosecution Fr. Robert Osbourne, the school principal, allowed Woulfe to leave ‘quietly’. Unfortunately, this did not stop Woulfe’s desire to prey on the weak and vulnerable.
    Eventually Woulfe would end up in the small town of Onarga, Illinois. In this area, Woulfe would once again continue his predatory sexual behavior on children until he was caught. “John Woulfe was a monster,” recalls Illinois-based author John Bernadyn in his newly released memoir Betrayed By The State: A Ward of the State Speaks Out in which he discusses the experiences he faced with this ex-clergyman. “He was demeaning, pushy, and manipulative.”
    After suspicion took hold of this town, Woulfe moved to the small town of Watseka, Illinois. He landed a position as a guidance counselor in the Kankakee School District – an occupation he knew all too well while serving at Chaminade. In 2002, Woulfe was arrested for predatory sexual behavior with a student. Defiantly, he refused to appear at court hearings.
    Woulfe would eventually find himself in a nursing home after suffering a stroke and ultimately dying in 2005 from the after-effects. “The real tragedy in this case is that all the people he victimized would never get to tell him directly how they felt or if they ever forgave him. I, too, felt robbed of this chance to say I forgave him but would never forget,” said Bernadyn.
    All allegations of sexual abuse are now required to be reported to local justice authorities. “This is a little too late,” whispers Bernadyn.

    • Thanks for sharing this, John! I’m so sorry for what you experienced! It’s a horrible shame that sexual abuse is so often hidden or covered up by churches. I hope you’ve had support for your recovery. Blessings to you!

  4. I have dealt with many of these effects in the years since I was sexually abused. Although the path is long, I do know that healing is possible.

    Thank you for sharing this with the Blog Against Child Abuse.

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